How to murder lack of self-belief


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Do you have a burning desire to write but think being published is something other people do? 

I felt like that for years.

People who eat chips and sausage from their laps in front of the TV don’t become writers do they?

People who wear tie-dyed leggings, glug too much vodka and orange on a night out and live in grotty one room flats with mushrooms growing out of the window frames because they can’t afford to live anywhere dry with only a minimum wage coming in – those people don’t become writers, do they?

People who didn’t revise for their exams, who had to quit college before they were thrown out … These people don’t get publishing contracts.

That’s what I thought, for decades. And though I still only have a few publishing credits to my name, something has changed.

Alright, one thing that’s changed is I now have enough writing practice under my ever-expanding belt to be able to string a reasonably coherent sentence together – just .

The other change?


My third blog post for Mslexia – How to Murder Lack of Self Belief – is up and live on the site now.

Pop along to see how I did the deed.



15 thoughts on “How to murder lack of self-belief

  1. Very cool! I too dove headfirst into a novel for my first serious attempt at writing. Boy was it bad. In fact I was just thinking of doing a post on how to write really awful dialogue and using some examples from it.

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    1. Aha! Glad it’s not just me 🙂 I’m betting the book wasn’t as bad as you imagine. And we have to do these things, don’t we, to improve. I’ve written three (unpublished) novels – a middle grade kid’s adventure and a crime story to first draft stage and the YA story that kicked it all off, which has been rewritten three or four times, been taken apart and replotted a couple of times too. Without all of that experience, though, I’d be no further forward. We have to go through the not-so-brilliant-writing to approach something we can be proud of. Being an A Grade slacker in an earlier life, I’m just pleased I’ve stuck with it long enough to have improved some – even if I’m not good enough to print yet.


      1. Yes, we have to go through the “apprentice” phase. But it sounds like you have. And just because no one has published you yet does not necessarily mean you are not yet good enough to print. 🙂

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      2. Thank you! Though I find the subject of my own progress difficult. I feel as if I’m improving, then I reread something I submitted recently and can only see the flaws. But then being self critical is no bad thing. 🙂


      3. I know what you mean. If I reread something from a year ago I might find its not as good as I thought it was at the time I wrote it. But I will also find its much better than what I wrote two years ago. What’s encouraging is sometimes not the piece itself but the trend of improvement over time. If we strive to do our best, and continue to learn and critique ourselves, our best should only get better.

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      4. Yes, very true. I can read work from a long time ago and see how much worse it is than writing from earlier this year, for instance. I wonder if writers ever get to the stage where they think ‘ right, that’s it – I’m as good as I can be’ or if they always read work and see the faults. All we can do is try to improve, as you say.


    1. Very, very true. I did a post last week about a guy who had self published a book just a year after starting to write. Maybe there are geniuses out there who can do that and produce something wonderful, but most of us need to have been writing for a while before we produce something good. Needless to say, this chap’s book … was not. Writing is a long distance jog, not the 100 metre sprint.
      No, I haven’t read Malcom Gladwell – is he good?


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